Embracing positivity materializes as a slippery slope.  On the one hand, the avoidance of addressing negativity or deep-seeded pain manifests into toxic positivity.  Yet, on the other hand, when you disallow yourself (and others) from experiencing any positivity, you are stealing the joy out of life.


And honestly, without joy, you have no life.




Celebration squashed


In the fall of 1998, I vividly remember hanging on to each word as I listened my classmate’s engagement story as we waited for our grad school professor to arrive.  As she told us about her romantic proposal from the preceding weekend, the females in the class ogled over the sparkling beauty perched upon her left hand.


Just as the teacher arrived, the proverbial sour puss of the class, Andrea, strolled in behind her.  While the crowd slowly dissipated, Andrea slung her bag down and bounced over to assess the fuss. Yet, as she peered at the diamond nugget glaring at her, her smile frowned as her visage turned green.


“You will end up in divorce like everyone else,” she sneered, as horror multiplied across the faces of the classmates.  Drama waves of shock erupted a flood of contentious responses as Andrea continued her wrath.


Not caring how envious she sounded, she continued her rant as she took her seat.  Armed with her verbal mallet, Andrea trampled upon our classmates’ jeers as she spewed out statics on failed marriages and recounted her own tale of terror.


With every objection falling on Deaf ears, Andrea continued to whack anyone who stood up to her with crushing blows. Finally, the professor intervened in the disruption and admonished Andrea for her reaction.




Whack-a-moling others’ joy


Cancelling others’ bliss brings a toxicity to the collective energy and destroys others’ rights to feel joy.  Rather than celebrating, some people vow to stealing the joy out of life of everyone around them.  What gives someone the right to negate others’ joy?


Additionally, when jealousy reveals its ugliness, the inner demons of misery rush to the surface while polluting the environment with poisonous lack consciousness energy.  Read more about how to be conscience with your consciousness and the energy you emit here: https://tracinicolesmith.com/be-conscientious-about-consciousness/


Reactions reflect truth


Clearly, many people would never react as Andrea did openly to the outside world.  Hence, few people have the audacity to boldly share their immense bitterness out loud to a crowd.


Whether it’s spoken or kept tightly coiled within, many people have an inability to feel joy for others or for themselves.  As they resort to stealing the joy out of life, they also release their venomous rage into the world.  This affects everyone as we are all interconnected.


If envy is what you are feeling, read here about how to address it here: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/5-ways-to-deal-with-envy-so-it-doesnt-steal-your-happiness/


Yet, if it is deeper rooted, it is worthwhile to delve within to heal your unexpressed pain.  Some people have dark, buried trauma locked away so tightly that not feeling any happiness is a defense mechanism.  Because of the devastation in their lives, not allowing themselves to EVER be happy becomes a default self-protection measure.   Read more about the link among thoughts, feelings, and emotions here: https://tracinicolesmith.com/visionary-activist-be-responsible-for-your-ripple/




Reflecting in life’s mirror


Without self-reflection, your reactions to events run your life rather than your choices.  Therefore, when you react in a resentful manner, it becomes crucial to address the core of why you feel that way rather than chalk it up to a response the current situation.


If you want to heal it, you must feel it.   Rather than stealing the joy out of life, learn to cultivate your own joy for life.  Remember, there is no honor in being miserable.  It just makes you miserable.


The honor lies within the courage to heal.